In Islam, children who have not reached
puberty are not required to fast. However, as parent or guardian, we
are encouraged to guide them in fasting. This is like a practice for
them, and will let them know the acts of fasting at an early age.
Ar-Rubayya' bint Mu'aawiyyah reported:
"The Messenger of Allah SAW sent a man on the morning of the day of
Ashura, to the residences of the Ansaar, saying: 'Whoever has spent
the morning fasting is to complete his fast. Whoever has not spent
this morning fasting should voluntary fast for the remainder of the
day.' We fasted after that announcement, as did our young children.
We would go to the mosque and make toys stuffed with cotton for them
to play with. If one of them started crying due to hunger, we would
give them a toy to play with until it was time to eat." [Bukhari and
Muslim]The hadeeth above explains that the Prophet Muhammad SAW
encourages all to fast, even those who did not fast in the morning,
where they should voluntarily fast for the remainder of the day. For
children, you should provide something to keep them occupied, so
that they will forget that they are hungry. Narrated Abu Hurairah (r.a.),
the Prophet SAW said:
"Seven people will be shaded by Allah (SWT) under His shade on
the day when there will be no shade except His." [Bukhari]
The seven as stated in the hadeeth includes a young man who has
been brought up in the worship of Allah SWT sincerely from his
childhood. Therefore, you should guide your children in being the
one who will be shaded by Allah SWT on the Day of Judgment.
You can try various methods to encourage your children to learn
about Ramadhaan and fasting. Of course, as a parent, you must play a
good role model, where you fast properly and behave according to the
teachings of Islam. Your children will learn from your example
faster than if you were to teach them. Here are some ways you could
try on your children (or nephews, nieces, grandchildren, etc...).
- You can encourage young children to fast every fews days and
as they grow, encourage them to fast more. Wake them up for the
suhoor. For young children, when they have gone through fasting
for a few days or so, praise them in front of friends and
relatives for their achievement. This gives them a sense of
acknowledgement, and they will feel that they are grown up to be
able to perform the obligation towards Allah SWT.
- Bring the whole family to the mosque for the Maghreeb
prayers and break the fast with the Muslim community. Feeling
the beauty of fasting where all Muslims rich and poor unite to
worship one God, Allah SWT, they will feel encouraged to fast
with other fellow Muslims.
- You should let your children to eat with you during Maghreeb
even though they do not fast. Let them know that you are
breaking the fast and teach them the supplication of breaking
the fast. You may bring your children to the mosque for the
Taraweeh prayer. This will give them the opportunity to learn
and get used to it from an early age. If they feel tired, let
them sit at the back of the room.
- Teach them the importance of charity in the month of
Ramadhaan. You should tell them that Allah SWT increases the
reward of those who gives charity in Ramadhaan. If they behave
wrongly, remind them that they are fasting. Allah SWT may alter
the reward of those who behave wrongly during the fasting month.
- Finally, on the Eid day, dress the children in the best
clothes and take them with you to Eid prayer. Teach them that
the Eid is the special feast for Muslims around the world.
Try these tips to educate your children, both boys and girls, in
the month of Ramadhaan. InshaaAllah, you will be rewarded in
paradise by Allah SWT for bringing them up according to the rules of
Islam. Remember, Prophet Muhammad SAW once said:
"One who is given the responsibility of the bringing up of
daughters and treats them well, there will be a shield for him from
Hell." [Bukhari and Muslim].
source: www.zawj.com
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